Divorce proceedings can be long and complex due to the procedures followed for divvying up assets accumulated during a marriage; however, the process can double or triple in complexity when children are involved. When issues of custody (now referred to as timesharing) fuel a tug-of-war mentality, parents may feel that obtaining sole parental rights is equivalent to "winning." Should discussions over timesharing become contentious, neither parent may retain an objective perspective on the well-being of the child. It is for this reason that child timesharing and responsibility decisions are often rendered in court.
Although our country's military commitments to the Middle East have wound down, the impact of these war-time engagements continues to reverberate in households across Central Florida. While a deployment in Iraq or Afghanistan may be over, the memories of events on the front lines may still remain, impacting your home dynamic. If you or your spouse is suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), your home dynamic could include not only your relationship with your spouse or partner, but also your relationship with your children. They may not have shared your experiences, but children are attuned to their parents' emotions and may be mirroring aspects of PTSD.
It is understandable that you have concerns when it comes to how your divorce will affect your children. However, rest assured that experts have concluded that parents' separations can have a less profound effect on kids than many people believe. The American Psychological Association points out that a child's adjustment post-divorce largely has to do with how his or her parents can resolve conflict and handle high-stress situations.
When a father is working toward establishing custody of his child, the most useful tool he can utilize is a paternity test.