Even if you know your marriage is over, asking for a divorce is easier said than done. When it comes time to finally have this conversation, there's a good chance you won't know what to say or how to act.
It's natural to have concerns about asking for a divorce since this is one of the most important conversations you will ever have. Furthermore, if the other person doesn't see it coming, there may be even more challenges standing in your way.
Here are a few things you can do to get on the right track:
- Go over the discussion in your mind: Think about all the things that could be said, as well as how your spouse may react. When you play it out in your mind, you can more easily handle anything that comes your way.
- Choose the right time and place: An important conversation like this must be held at the right time and in the right place. Settle on a time and location that works well for both individuals.
- Don't get into the details: When you ask for a divorce and then move into the details, such as who will have custody of the children, you're setting yourself up for a disagreement. There is time to work through these details later on, so leave them out of the initial conversation.
The way you ask for a divorce will alter what happens next. As long as you know what you're doing, you'll put yourself in better position to handle all aspects of the divorce process in the future.