If you and your ex-spouse have children together, one of the things you may be interested in doing is improving communication. It was one thing to have breakdowns in communication when you lived together, but without that connection, you know it's important to get your communication channels working correctly.
Ex-spouses don't always get along, but improving communication is still possible. Here are three tips that can help.
1. Keep a schedule for nonemergency communication throughout the week
If you know when you need to talk to the other person, you can prepare for that conversation in advance. Set up times when you can talk. For example, you might take calls from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. through the week or only in the afternoon on weekends. Setting boundaries keeps calls, texts and messages coming in only when you have time for them.
2. Keep communication succinct
Don't let emotion get in the way of your communication. Short replies are preferable over long, emotionally draining messages. At first, you may only be able to give simple messages, but over time, you may be able to communicate more effectively without emotional responses.
3. Take your time to respond
Finally, if you are struggling to be kind, wait before you respond. Starting a fight won't improve communication, but waiting a few hours to respond without anger or frustration can help significantly.
These are three tips for improving communication after divorce. With open channels of communication, you can be better parents to your children and avoid disputes with your ex-spouse that could disrupt your way of life.